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5/02/2025

Hair—it’s the one accessory you can’t take off (well, unless you’re rocking a wig). Whether it’s curly, straight, long, short, or fabulously bald, your hair is a unique part of you. But loving it? That can be tricky. Trust me, as someone who has wrestled with my own coily locks, I know the struggle is real.

But fear not! Whether your hair is behaving or rebelling, these tips will help you embrace it with love, patience, and maybe just a little bit of sass.

Get to Know Your Hair Like a New Best Friend

Would you fall in love with a stranger? Probably not. So why treat your hair any differently? Getting to know your strands is the first step to loving them. Think of it as friendship-building—what makes your hair frizzy, dry, or extra moody? What products make it thrive?

And yes, I totally named my hair. (She’s a diva, and she deserves a name.) Whether you have flowing locks, a short crop, or a smooth, bald scalp, understanding how to care for it is key. Got a growth goal? Research the right products! Have a shaved head? Invest in scalp care! Your hair, or lack thereof, is a relationship that deserves attention.

Master the Art of Hair Care

Washing, conditioning, moisturizing—sounds simple enough, right? Wrong. Turns out, there’s a science to keeping your hair happy. The golden rule? Less heat, fewer chemicals, and smarter product choices.

If you’re in the trenches of heat-damage recovery, a haircut might be your salvation. BUT DON’T DIY IT. (Unless you're a professional, then go ahead, you hair artist.) A skilled stylist will help revive your tresses while keeping your goal in mind. And if a fresh chop isn't necessary, nailing the right hydration routine is just as important. Dry hair? Moisturize. Greasy hair? Clarifying shampoo. Bald? Scalp care, my friend—it’s a whole movement.

The key here is trial and error. There’s no one-size-fits-all routine, which makes your hair care journey uniquely yours.

Styling: The Battle of Patience vs. Reality

Compared to hair care, styling might just be the real boss battle. Some days, my curls behave like they’ve had a spiritual awakening. Other days? They refuse to form a bun, leaving me in existential despair.

Here’s my golden nugget of wisdom: Don’t force hairstyles. If the bun won’t bun, let it go. Instead, pivot! Try clips, headbands, cuffs, or any hair accessory that lets you be fabulous without the struggle. And if you like chaos? Over-accessorize. The world is your runway.

Set Your Hair Goals (Without Losing Your Mind)

What do you want for your hair? Length? Volume? A dramatic color change? Setting goals keeps you focused. The trick is patience—no one wakes up with Rapunzel-level locks overnight.

Do your research. Watch tutorials, read testimonials, and—most importantly—double-check your sources. Some reviews are more fantasy fiction than fact, so cross-reference before diving in. And please, for the love of good decisions, check ingredient lists for potential allergens.

Above all, hair health is the foundation of success. A hydrated scalp, strong strands, and minimal split ends set the stage for whatever hair dream you’re chasing.

Treat Yourself (Because You Deserve It)

Let’s be honest—doing your hair every. single. day. is exhausting. And social media makes it look effortless, which only adds insult to injury.

If I had the funds, I’d hire a glam team for my mom on demand (because she deserves it). But until the manifestation gods bless me, I’ve learned that little splurges make a world of difference. Get a blowout, try a new cut, or even indulge in a salon treatment. The price tag doesn’t have to be extravagant—your version of splurging could be $30, and that’s totally fine.

Self-care is an investment, and let’s be real—you’re already gorgeous.

Here are a few ideas in case you need them:

• Blowout

• Braiding

• Dyed

• Temporary perm

• Silk Press

• A new cut

• Extensions 

• Professional wig install

Give Yourself Time

We live in a world of instant transformations, but real confidence? It takes time. And let’s be honest, most of those “overnight glow-ups” you see online took years behind the scenes.

I know, because I’ve been there. (So much so that I wrote a poem about it in my book, The Hummingbird’s Garden). You don’t have to wake up tomorrow loving everything about your hair—but one day, you’ll laugh instead of cry when it refuses to cooperate.

Until then, embrace the process. If the high bun won’t happen today, make peace with a low bun. Trust me, you’ll still look professional and fabulous.

At the end of the day, your hair is uniquely yours. If even one of these tips helps you fall in love with it just a little more, that’s a win. Keep going—you’re on a journey to self-love, and I promise, it’ll be worth it. Remember life has more in store for you. 

(All images courtesy of pixabay.com)